What is frigid in books

via Daily Prompt: Frigid

So today I want to talk about being called frigid. It’s a painful word to me, as I have been called that a time or two. So why are we as women putting up with that? Why do we allow men to determine our value based on this one word? Well I am tired of being judged, so here it goes. I have Autism, its part of me I cannot turn it off and on; so when people accuse me of being cold or unfeeling or frigid, its not because I want to be. I am a hyper rational person who sees the world in a different light. People see me as this ice queen, when in reality I am the opposite. It is hard for me to make connections, yet I believe that one day someone will look past my “frigid” ice queen face and fall in love with me. Why is no one else talking about romance for Autistic people? I have yet to find love in my supposed “frigid” heart but maybe one day. So in closing here is to hope…I am giving up on the stereotype that has been placed on me and embracing the me I am.

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Unrealistic Romance storylines

So today in honour of Valentine’s day, I would like to take time to talk about the how we put unrealistic story lines in Romance books. I freely admit to being bitter today. We read love stories and think that our white knight will come riding in and rescue us. This has been instilled in us since we were read our first fairytale. So I am going to give you my list of unrealistic romantic story lines in order so that we can discuss more of them.

1. In real life it is not as simple as boy meets girl. Love at first sight does not make everything hunky dory. Once you find love not is not a bed of roses. Love can be a struggle; you make a choice to love each day.

2. Billionaires/ Princes/ Sheiks/ and Athletes do not fall for the girl next door. If you are looking for a man to take care of you, it’s not going to happen. Take care of yourself and be confident in yourself; the right man will come along.

3. Office romances/ dating your boss can be a really bad idea. When it ends badly, you will be looking for work.

4. Affairs do not mean that you will live happily ever after. More than 75 percent of relationships that begin as a result of affairs last. To quote Dr. Phil ” The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior”. So to put it mildly, if he cheats on her he will cheat on you. Now I am going to give you a piece of advice that took me awhile to get. If he cheats on you; do not take him back.

5. Older/ younger affairs can work out; but when you are in two different arcs of life it can fail. Mostly ladies, you are a trophy just to be paraded out when you need to make them look good.

6. Fifty shades of grey is not what you should want in a romance. Now this is not to say that BDSM relationships can’t work out. If that is something for you, go for it. While this book brought kinky to the mainstream, it doesn’t mean that this type of lifestyle should be entered into lightly.

7. I am going to mention this since I have read many books on Polygamy.  It doesn’t work; for all of the pro-polygamy books and shows there are way more books on why it doesn’t. If you want a good read I would suggest that you read Escape by Carolyn Jessop.

So in all of this, I hope that you found this compelling. If you have any other ideas feel free to comment.

Happy reading,

Janine

 

Putting books in context: The Regency Period.

I decided for the next little while that I would take the time to understand the many different time periods that books and plays take place in. So today I am going to focus on the Regency period. This period in time inspired many authors such as Jane Austen, Sir Walter Scott, Mary Shelly, just to name a few. I think that to understand the way the Author wrote the book, you must understand the time that they wrote it in.

The Regency period in England took place between 1795-1837, and during this time there were many things going on. Napoleon was waging war in Europe, the Elgin Marbles were on display at the British Museum, Elizabeth Fry began her ministry at Newgate prison, and the Royal Astronomical Society was formed. This was a time when there a great divide between the poor and “Society”.

I think that for many of us, we see the words that the authors wrote, but we fail to contextualize the time in which it was written. For example the beginning statement of Pride and Prejudice, ” It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.” It was quite common for women to marry to ensure that their families interests were upheld. Many marriages of the time were arranged by their parents, based on a mutual need. The fact that Mrs Bennett is trying to have Lizzie accept Mr Collins, even though they are distant relations is fairly typical for many people’s attitude of the time.  Many people within their social circle of the time would be marry distant cousins, in fact even in todays Monarchy, Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip are Third cousins, through their relation Queen Victoria.

If any of this is confusing don’t be alarmed. It is natural  not to understand the societal restrictions of the era. If you would like to learn more about the rules and etiquette of the Regency era, I would recommend reading Georgette Heyer’s book, Regency World. It provides insight into the culture and life within society. For example, women were heavily chaperoned, so in this respect it makes assemblies and balls all the more important. A woman would dance her required one to two sets with her partner (dances could last upwards of half an hour); this would give her ample opportunity to get to know her partner. Women were not permitted to show overt displays of emotions; as it was seen as ill-bred. A lady never forced herself upon a man’s notice.

I hope that this has helped you understand the basics of the regency era, and the books that were published.

Happy reading,

Janine

 

 

 

 

Confessions

via Daily Prompt: Confess

So in honor of the prompt, I think that I will make a series of confessions to you my fellow bloggers. So here it goes… I am feeling totally overwhelmed and overly stressed out. I am thinking I am going through Christmas Let Down at this moment. I haven’t been sleeping well, I am feeling sad, I worry about every little thing, I am struggling with what books to review and what to post on. I am totally overwhelmed in my life right now. So now I am going to make another confession; I have Aspergers ( a high functioning form of Autism). I love routine and I hate it being disrupted especially around Christmas time. I love my family but having everyone there is like sensory overload. It’s especially difficult when you can pick up every emotion in a room. I struggle everyday with where do I belong; some days I just don’t want to get out of bed. I wish I had finished University or got a degree in something. It’s one of the biggest regrets that I have in my life. I know what you are going to say, “You could always go back”, however much I want to go back I am unable to at this point. I love my boyfriend. I see a future with him; but I haven’t told him yet. I am scared that if I tell him how I really feel, I will be rejected by him not loving me back. I am scared of getting hurt yet again so I am patiently waiting for him to tell me.

So readers these are my confessions, so I challenge you to do something that scares you today. I know I will be.

Happy reading,

Janine

The Best Books/Series that I Have Read in 2017

Good Morning readers,

I am an avid reader, so today I decided to write about the books that I have read in 2017. Now there have been a lot of books that I have read; but I am going to give you my top twenty books/ series that I have read this year . FYI: These books/ series are in no particular order.

  1. An Ultimate Novel series by Lori Foster.
  2. The Hart Family series by Ella Fox
  3. The Renegade Saints series by Ella Fox
  4. Enemies and Playmates by Darcia Helle
  5. Royals of Valleria Series by Marianne Knightly
  6. Sweet Sinful Nights by Lauren Blakely
  7. Significance Series by Shelly Crane
  8. The Tycoon’s Revenge by Melody Anne
  9. Lovers and Strangers by Candace Schuler
  10. The Family Simon series by Juliana Stone
  11. The Monuments Men by Robert Edsel
  12. The Brothers Karamazov by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
  13. Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
  14. Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
  15. Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
  16. Under the Dome by Stephen King
  17. The Client by John Grisham
  18. Atonement Child by Francine Rivers
  19. The Alice Network by Kate Quinn
  20. The People Vs Alex Cross by James Patterson

Now readers, if you have any books that you would like me to read or review in the coming year leave me a comment below.

Happy reading,

Janine

 

Lets Chat: Christmas traditions

So in my house every Christmas we have certain traditions that we follow. On Christmas eve we have an appetizer supper, go to Church,  and when we come home we read the Christmas story from the bible, watch movies and then go to bed. As kids we were allowed to stay up as late as wanted; since it meant that Mom could sleep in. Now I have found that I still enjoy those same traditions that I did as a kid. As adults do we bring them in because we like them or do we do it because we think it is expected of us to hold onto? My question to you my readers is, what traditions have you brought with you into your life as an adult that you like to follow and what traditions would you like to give up?

Give me your opinion E Reader vs Paperback

So today there was a debate going on between my family about whether or not to buy a KIndle? Is it better than the traditional book? For me it doesn’t matter so much  as I love both. I love the feel and the smell of a book. You can find many treasures at a used book store that you might not be able to find anywhere else. Now in the eReader’s defense it is convenient to have so many different books at your fingertips; and you can find a new author that you like who publishes strictly online. I have found many new wonderful authors on my Kindle who I enjoy their work.

So you tell me, which do you prefer the paperback book or an E Reader? It may help to curb an argument.

Happy reading,

Janine

Christmas books.

I love Christmas, it is my favorite holiday of they year. It stands to reason that these are my favorite books as well. I love how magical the time is and what it represents in a world where there is not a lot to be happy about. I am going to give you my top Christmas book recommendations for my favorite Christmas books.

  1.  A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens
  2.  The Grinch Who Stole Christmas by Dr Seuss
  3. Polar Express by Chris Van Allsburg
  4. Christmas At The Castle by Melissa McClone
  5. Skipping Christmas by John Grisham
  6. The Doctor’s Christmas Proposal by Eve Gaddy
  7. The Adventure of the Christmas Pudding by Agatha Christie
  8. A Visit From St Nicholas by Clement Clarke Moore
  9. All I Want For Christmas By Jennifer Gracen
  10. Yule Be Mine by Lori Foster

So if anyone out there has any Favorites on the list let me know; I am always open to reading other Christmas books.

Happy reading,

Janine

LEARNING TO BLOG

Hey fellow readers,

Since I am new to blogging I realized that my first post that I posted did not contain the link that was needed. I am realizing how I felt the first time I posted, I honestly expected to have no one read my first blog(to be honest). So it was kind of exciting to hit that publish button. Is it just me or is that the best part of the process; the feeling of accomplishment after a blog is posted? I am sitting here at work reading my books, taking notes, and its hard to find a book or an author to critique. Does anyone else struggle with the what do I post or how do I decide on what to write? If anyone else has suggestions let me know. I am available to all forms of criticism and feedback .

https://bookhaven467773552.wordpress.com/2017/12/02/my-first-blog

Let me know what you think of my original post.

Happy reading,

Janine

My First Blog

Hi to all the readers out there. My name is Janine; this seems wierd to be writing about myself, I hope that this will get easier over time. I am an avid reader, it is my passion and I cannot get through the day without reading a book. I can read anything from classic literature to steamy trashy romances. For me books can shape ideas and help you discover yourself. Books can sweep you away on an adventure or take you to a time gone by. They can help inspire ideas to change the world in way of technology. For this blog, I would like to connect with other readers, authors, editors and publishers. After one year of successful blogging I hope that I can make this my new career.

Happy Reading,

Janine